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[Feb. 8th, 2006|11:01 am] |
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I really intended to update more frequently... but well life.
My family is turning into a Redneck version of
Being from Pittsburgh, of course I watched the game - I've tried to explain to out of towners that here, even if you don't care for sports you know/like/watch more than most sport's fans in other cities. Besides, there's always food involved and my brother is a hell of a cook. So, I was over there watching The Game ect until about 10:30 and then went home to Dad who didn't feel like going out in the cold to watch a game he could watch (and nap through) at home. Everything was normal, Nephew 1 who is under house arrest (no not grounded, low jacked by the county jail due to trying to kill Nephew 2) had place a bet and although brother told him he shouldn't have he was pretty cool - it was a passing comment made because Nephew 1 has a girlfriend and baby living with his mom and as part of trying to be a responsible adult should not be placing $200 (about one forth of his net worth) on a game.
So by the time I leave, and my cousin and his son leaves, and my brother and his girlfriend but away all the food and clean up its about 11:30 and they go to bed. Nephew 1 who had called Nephew 2 in front of all of us during the game and told him to come over and they would play some poker went downstairs to his bedroom and sent and email (which was replied to so brother read/printed it afterward so that's how I know) to bring some beer and cigarettes and come over... point of fact when you are under house arrest you are not permitted to drink, just like prison - they have you periodically - when an alarm installed in your home goes off speak into a microphone to be voice ID'ed and breath into a testing mechanism. Both nephews are recovering addicts and on drugs for drugs and drugs for mental illness and should not drink even if no one was policing them.... oh and nephew 2 is on probation, he is not permitted out of his house without an adult after 8 PM(okay I am unclear on what type of probation this is but he tried to kill his mom and I think is in her custody - he is over 18 and under 21 so in PA he can not legally drink under any circumstances)
But I digress. Nephew 2 came over around 12:30 and after a little bit my brother woke to the sound of people leaving the house, he looked out the window just in time to see nephew 1 get into a black jeep and drive off.... he knows nephew 2 has a black jeep and calls his son, gets voice mail and says to call right back, he then calls his wife (yep this ... what is Jack Twist said? a godamn bitch of an unsatisfactory situation has been going on over 3 years and they still haven't got the divorce... signed on the dotted line yes but she keeps breaking the agreements, like the shared custody was stopped not by the court but her telling him if he keep seeing his youngest daughter (6) she would accuse him of child molestation)
His wife (who he woke up) said she knew that nephew 2 was violating his probation and out of the house but she was sure he was not drinking and that he had not assisted/encourage his brother to violate the house arrest - the call ended here because brother had to take a call from Nephew 2 - he talked to both of them, they had been drinking and tried to sell him some story about Nephew 2 calling Nephew 1 to help him push his jeep out of the ditch (it was snowing and they did not know brother had saw them leave).
Nephew 2 drops off Nephew 1 and Brother calls him an idiot and asks what he was thinking... they yell a bit and brother tells him to go to bed and turns to go to bed himself. Nephew punches him from behind and puts him in a choke hold, brother - who breathes regularly and often, or tries to - flips nephew off him into a kitchen cabinet causing nephew 1's nose to break. The girlfriend is cowering in the next room holding her cell phone but not wanting to call the police because she likes nephew 1 and does not want to get him it trouble but is afraid he is going to kill his father who is sort of laying on the kid, (who is taller and a black belt) holding him down and begging him to let it go and stop fighting. Nephew 1 is screaming, swearing and threatening to kill his dad. Dad is not as young as he used to be (45) and has the disadvantage of not wanting to hurt the person trying to kill him. Unable to settle the kid down (Nephew 1 is 23) and getting tired himself he yell to the girlfriend to call the cops - she does, 911 records the whole pleading, threat and eventual running away brother did to avoid further fighting and the cops pull up to find nephew chasing brother down the road and he once again resists arrest. They don't like that - really he's resisted in the last assault... it makes them very cranky.
Nephew 1 is taken away all is not good, brother is broken up and he and his girlfriend are cleaning us the blood off of the kitchen floor - but they hadn't locked the kitchen door - which all this drama happen via. In comes the wife and nephew 2, wife is crying and screaming that brother got drunk and beat up nephew 1, girlfriend quiet calmly states that that is not what happened. Wife screams 'home wrecker' as if this family wasn't a train wreck long before he moved out... and nephew 2 (who smells drunk) gets in girlfriend's face causing 1) brother to step between them and 2) girlfriend to walk into the next room and call 911 for the second time that night.
The recording, if the lawyer can get it released will show Wife and Son screaming, swearing and threatening to 'blow you away' - another point of fact back when nephew 1 was merely a cocaine addict and not a heroin addict wife bought a gun in her name and gave it to him when he was living in Oakland (Pittsburgh campus area) Finally after repeatedly asking them to leave, brother called 911 - that's stereo - two calls at the same time - the police took wife and nephew 2 out - no charges were pressed that night but after her telling everyone (they work together) that he got drunk and beat his son - he went down and filed a complaint.
I have known my sister-in-law for about 30 years... she has been behaving less and less rationally. I'm not a mother but sane mother's put their children's safety ahead of bitterness, pride or whatever neurotic problems they develop. I can't conceive what her purpose was in bringing Nephew 2 into that situation... what was she hoping for ... was he bait? If I can get him to provoke his father into striking him I can claim his father is violent...the kid was in her custody... it is very likely that at this next hearing with this incident he could end up in jail. Nephew 1 is back there...
I really fear that she is not sane. The two of us have always approached the concept of right and wrong from different angles... she thinks if you don't get caught its okay... me... I know God won't smite me for running that stop sign and maybe I can do it almost every morning and still not get a ticket but I still stop, I agree with the purpose of the sign it was put where it was to keep me and people I may cause harm to safe. She has raised her kids to believe they are somehow better or smarter than the poor schmucks who follow the rules. These poor kids just keep getting hammered by the oncoming cars and are stunned that somehow they aren't exempt to the consequences of their own actions.
I am afraid. Afraid for my brother. Afraid for those kids... the older niece (who should be in her freshman year of college was sent home in September for being dangerously underweight and having an eating disorder) is about 90lbs fully clothed, soaking wet and holding a brick - she is committing passive suicide, she spent a month in the Renfrew Center but I'll be surprised if she sees year end. The boys are being strangled by their mother... Nephew 1 at least is away from her in jail but I really think, after what she did bring Nephew 2 into that situation she may think if he kills my brother she can get the kid off on an insanity plea and all her 'problems' will be solved. The safest thing for Nephew 2 may be if he is incarcerate - may be it will break some of this creepy hold she has --- he should be in his senior year at high school but because he wasn't getting along with someone she has him going to school on line... basically he has taken over the role she previously had Nephew 1 in which was more spouse than son.
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Wow! I am so sorry. I just hope the bitca can somehow be gotten out of their lives. It seems to me that the 3 oldest are old enough to get away from her somehow but I'd be really worried about that youngest daughter who is being kept from her father and who is probably getting a distorted view of her dad as the mom vents her rage and tries to manipulate things.
Shakatany
I'm not sure I would have had the strength to walk away at their age. They are upper-middle class but in this area that comes off as affluent. IE: leaving mommy would be like getting off welfare - none of them have ever had to live within their means - they get cars and a rockstyle lifestyle, sleeping late 'working' for the family business & credit cards. Walking out and working to make rent on some little dive would be a rude awakening so they hang by the pool and let mom expense the cell phones, computers and other toys to the company. If they moved in with dad he would expect them to get jobs or go to school and take responsibility...
I think the youngest would be safer out of the 24/7 drama of it all - even if she got taken in by Children & Youth Services - every adult in that house takes enough pills to rattle - I'm always afraid someone will wander off and forget her or overdose when they are the only adult left with her.
That's where the whole greek tragedy allusion came from... she is sacrificing the safety if not the lives of her children all to vent her spleen over the fact that after she repeatedly pushed him out, he eventually left and is moving on without her.
(((hugs)))
Family can bring out the best and worst in all of us.
Thanks. And they are so much a part of us that you take them with you inside even if you do manage to get away.
What a horrible situation. Completely unrelated, did you see this?
Thank you! That just made my day.
I keep a tremdous amount of Slash on my PDA and always wonder what people reading over my shoulder think.
Hugs to you!
BTW, I was on the bus and this girl was reading a Buffy story. I was totally excited, and then she says, "I really like the Xander/Spike stories."
If I knew then what I know now... (I was into slash then, but I would scare her now by naming all of my favorite writers.)
Plus, I was reading zine fic and have people tell me to 'study hard'. Sure, I'll get right on that. | |
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